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My guides come in 3 flavors: Beginner,
Intermediate and Black Belt Advanced. Enough for
all skill levels.
The following tips are not excerpts from any of
my books, they are taken from a mini Email
course I put together. However, they do give
you an idea, or a preview of the Beginner level
guide (and a little taste of some more advanced
techniques). It gets a lot more advanced than
this in the Intermediate and Advanced guides
all the while taking you by the hand
step-by-simple step helping you to develop your
"game" at your pace.
The Basics of First Impressions:
ALWAYS look your best. I know this sounds
REALLY obvious but you'd be surprised by how
many men don't understand the importance of
this simple tip. You never know when the girl
of your dreams will turn up, or where. And it’s
become a bit of a cliché because it’s true --
first impressions really do count.
Here are some figures to consider from my
studies.
If you make a GOOD first impression on a woman,
you have a 90% chance of EVER getting with her
at that point (10% of women for whatever reason
will be unreachable for most men at ANY point -
she might like women herself etc).
If you make a BAD first impression your chances
with her reduce drastically to just 20%. This
means that to make her attracted to you AFTER
the first 3 minutes of meeting her will be
incredibly difficult if her first impressions
of you were bad.
It’s the difference between climbing a mountain
and using a helicopter to fly up one. Good
first impressions means you’re on your way to
the top in the helicopter, bad first
impressions means you have a difficult climb to
success - no helicopters for you.
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Honestly, I can't stress this enough -- always
try to look your best.
Tiff’s 5 S’s of first impressions.
Shave. Shower. Stylish. Smell. Shoes.
Remember these 5 S’s and always take care of
them before you go out.
Why are shoes my number 5 S?
Your shoes are the FIRST thing a woman really
notices about your clothing and hence your
appearance. Make sure your shoes are clean and
fashionable.
What you wear is very important. I could try to
recommend a certain look but as with all things
fashionable by the time you read this it may
have changed.
Get the latest GQ magazine or other fashionable
men's magazine's and imitate the styles you see
there -- most women don't really care what
labels you are wearing as long as you look good
so you don't have to spend the Earth on
clothing.
Many guys I help dress better usually comment
on how strange they feel wearing clothes they
are uncomfortable in, but nine times out of 10
they start to feel natural and even confident
wearing their new wardrobe within days.
Make sure you smell good. Again this is
extremely important. Remember how you feel when
a woman walks by you and she smells soooo good
- you feel an instant attraction even though
you don't know her - well, that's how women
feel too.
Wear a good-quality cologne, but don't spray
too much.
One squirt on both sides of the neck, and one
squirt on both wrists -- maximum. You don't
want to smell too overpowering.
I recommend cool water by Davidoff or John Paul
Gautier for Men (often called JPG love juice
because women love it) if they don’t sell it
where you are try to order some from abroad,
this stuff is GREAT!
And here's a GREAT little SECRET that I have
found will help you actually pickup about 24%
of women without SAYING a word to them! Not a
single word! And NO rejection either. You won't
find this anywhere else either. What you need
to do is...
...Today I’m going to talk to you about YOUR
body language.
Body language is VERY important. According to
studies carried out over 50% of your
communication comes from your body language -
what you DON’T say and less then 8% of your
communication comes from what you DO say.
What does this mean to you?
It is MORE important to pay careful attention
to HOW you say things, and HOW you stand and
HOW you act than it is to WHAT you say (at
least initially).
You see, you could have the BEST game in the
world and be able to really get any woman to
like you loads, for example online, but if you
used those same successful techniques in the
real world and lacked obvious confidence,
lacked eye contact etc - You would simply CRASH
and BURN.
Honestly, body language is SOOOO important in
attracting women. Later in the course we’ll go
into how you can use the female’s body language
to READ her mind and know what she’s thinking.
This Email is about YOUR body language.
Ok… So, I’ll cover the basics as the advanced
stuff is beyond the scope of this Email (if you
want more advanced detail concerning body
language you can check out my site:
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Body language basics:
1. Smile
You have to make the female feel at ease and
comfortable that you are a friendly and fun guy
and you are not a psycho as quick as possible.
Especially when talking to her for the first
time. You also need to let her know that you
are confident and comfortable around women. A
big and genuine smile is the best way to do
this. It works. In fact, if you ever get an Ice
Queen that you can tell is about to give you
the “dead eye”, give her a big smile. Practice
smiling at random people. You’ll be surprised
by how many people smile back and at how many
doors open to you. Smiling WORKS. Just don’t
make it a cheesy, fake smile ;)
2. Eye contact
As you know there’s nothing worse than staring
at a woman’s chest - or even looking. It makes
you just like all the other guys who drool over
her. If anything you should use all your skill
to NOT look at her chest - she’ll wonder why
her womanly powers don’t work with you and
she’ll seek your attention and subconsciously
TRY to get you to look!
When talking to her, try to maintain eye
contact. Not too much because it can be
intimidating, but if you aim to have eye
contact with her around 70% of the time you are
talking, this should be comfortable for most
women. Don’t stare like a crazy man, just be
natural but if you naturally look away or are
slightly shy when it comes to eye contact, make
a conscious effort to have a little more. Eye
contact can make serious connections within
people. They say the eyes are a window to the
soul and I think there may be some truth to
that. There are even speed dating type events
being run that involve just staring into each
others eyes - and from what I hear, they are
pretty successful.
Maintain eye contact. Not too much, about 70%
of conversation time. Be natural.
3. Upright posture
Guys can get away with a bit of a hunch, but
women really do prefer men with straight,
upright postures. Look at all the big film
actors like Pitt, Cruise etc. They all have
good posture. It says to a woman you are
confident, healthy, and strong (at least in
mind). It’s just generally more attractive and
says lots about who you are. Plus it’s good for
your back and will help strengthen your back
muscles making it easier to maintain.
Get into the HABIT of having an upright
posture.
4. Gesticulate with open palms
You will not hear this tip anywhere else (or if
you do, it was almost certainly copied from
this course).
I’ve gone into in depth studies of body
language and this one is a good one to use in
MANY circumstances - I’ve adapted it here after
solid testing to picking up women - however,
some people suggest that when combined with a
few other verbal and non-verbal techniques it
can even give you a 50/50 chance of getting out
of speeding fines!
Anyway, basically, when you are talking to a
woman and trying to make a point (that puts you
in a positive light) or defend yourself (for
example, a girl suggests you might be a player)
you talk and using your hands you have open
palms facing upwards. Keep your arms in front
of your body with your palms facing the sky and
smile as you talk.
It works VERY well on a subconscious level to
suggest you are being honest and telling the
truth. And if you want a woman to begin to
trust you, making her think you are being
straight with her, is important.
This open palm gesticulation MUST be combined
with a smile to work effectively...
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...Today we’re going to talk about the basics
of approaching groups of girls.
For this example I’m going to use women at a
bar. I will be going into lots of other
techniques for non-bar pickups too but for now,
we’ll stick with this.
(Note: In fact, I even recommend you try my top
places for picking up that are not bars - they
are WAAAAAAAY better than ANY bar and you’ll
see a massive leap in your success rates with
women.)
As you know, women don’t usually go to bars on
their own. They go in groups.
Approaching GROUPS of women can be extremely
daunting and if you don’t know what you’re
doing, you can fail BADLY with groups and like
a pack of wolves they can rip you apart. I’ve
seen men get cussed at, totally ignored and
even drinks poured over them.
But if you do the approach RIGHT, then your
success with a group of women can usually yield
great results.
Whenever I suggest approaching groups of women
I get LOADS of guys looking at me as though I’m
from another planet. I realize that lots of
guys probably don’t have the initial confidence
to simply walk up to beautiful women they don’t
know. Don’t worry, this can be easily solved.
I’ll give you some simple tips here.
SIDE NOTE: If you have a major confidence
problem then don’t worry, I have an advanced
155-page E-book called HypnoDate which almost
exclusively goes into increasing your
confidence with women - and it works through
the power of self-reprogramming so it doesn’t
matter how shy you are, this thing WILL work
for you. It’s a bonus product in the
guygetsgirl.com member’s area that comes with
my book at no extra charge.
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INCREASING CONFIDENCE EXERCISE IN THE MALL
Step 1. Walk around the shopping mall and when
you catch a woman’s eye, smile at her - more
often than not, she’ll smile back. To start
with you can do this just with shop employees.
Even if they don’t WANT to smile, they probably
will. Good practice. And you might even
brighten a few women’s lives a little.
Step 2. Once you’ve gained confidence in making
natural eye contact and a smile with staff, you
could move onto other women in the mall. I’m
not suggesting big weird freak smiles, just
nice, natural friendly ones. A lot of women
will smile back at you.
Step 3. Here’s where it might seem a little
weird, but this really does help and practice
and repetition will make this lots easier. Just
say “hi” with a smile to women (and men if you
like) as you walk around the mall. It will feel
HORRIBLE at first if you are not confident but
slowly, after an hour or two, it’ll seem
easy.
After you’ve smiled and said hi to 20 or 30
women, you should start to feel good (as long
as you don’t quit on your first negative
response - this will happen and will happen
when you’re approaching women to pick them up -
you HAVE to learn to step out of your comfort
zone if you want to be successful with
women).
One of my male friends did the “smile at girls
in the mall” technique and he actually ended up
meeting the girl of his dreams and is still
with her 3 years later - how’s that for
effective!
There are loads of other techniques you can do
to build your confidence, most not quite as
scary as the mall one. I go into others within
my book…
Right, let’s assume you now have the confidence
or at least the guts to approach women you
don’t know in a bar (Again, I don’t just go
into bar pickups in my book, in fact, I think
the best places to pick up women are NOT in a
bar - I think it’s everyday places where you’re
not competing with other single guys).
Firstly, let’s suppose two girls are sat
together at a bar. One is the ‘ugly’ one and
one is the hot one (the one you like the looks
of and would like to get to know more).
You see the girls. Go up to them and talk to
them NOW! Don’t waste time. Within 3 seconds of
seeing them, approach them. Some people call
this the 3 second rule and I must say it really
does seem to work.
If you see her and like her, it’s best not to
think too much about the approach, or you’re
more likely to work yourself into such a state
that your approach will be ineffective or
you’ll just pussy out altogether!
(Don’t worry I’ll tell you WHAT to say when you
get there in a future lesson). So within 3
seconds, go TALK to her!
ALWAYS, ALWAYS approach a woman from the side
or an angle from the front. !!!NEVER from
behind - IMPORTANT!!!
If you go up to the group at the bar and
approach from behind you will INSTANTLY invoke
a negative response, and they will be put on
the defensive - for obvious reasons. ALWAYS,
ALWAYS, ALWAYS go in from the side.
Also, don’t approach from the side the woman
you actually LIKE is on.
You should approach from the side the girl you
DON’T like is on. This is because you’re going
to talk to the one you DON’T like (which
presumably is the not so good-looking one).
This seems counter-intuitive at first but I’ll
explain why it’s important in tomorrow’s lesson
where I’m going to go into what you actually
SAY to the women you approach…
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...Now, there are various stages, a flowchart
if you like - that you can follow in EVERY
pickup you do and like a salesman who has a
pre-defined sales pitch, you can use it every
time and you’ll get better at it with more and
more practice and experience.
Obviously reading from a script will NOT help
you attract women. But having some kind of
structure, knowing where you’re going next WILL
help with your confidence and overall flow of
the pickup, and with time and experience you
can refine it until you’re getting excellent
results.
You must remember this. You WILL be rejected.
Accept it, learn from it and move on. Even the
BEST seducers in the world will get rejected
from time to time.
It’s very much like selling (but you’re selling
yourself to the woman).
Did you know that on average, for every 100
visitors that visit a website only 1 of those
visitors purchase anything from that site. That
means 99 individual people come to the site and
then simply click away never to return.
This is called a conversion ratio.
I like to think of guys approaching women in
the same terms - of converting prospects into
buyers, or converting prospective women, into
partners. You are in essence doing the same
thing… selling yourself to her. Luckily for
you, even from the outset you should have a
better conversion ratio than 1:100.
If you approach women using your current skills
(whatever they may be, for this example let’s
say you’re pretty clue less and new to the
dating game for whatever reason). You approach
100 women, you’re VERY LIKELY to get 1 of them
to agree to a date with you. But what man can
take 99 no’s before he gets a yes? It’s VERY
hard.
Ok, now presuming you are of average looks and
can talk to women even if you’re not great at
picking them up. You approach 20 women, you’ll
probably manage to get interest from 1. So
you’re looking at converting at 1:20.
But you know what? I’d say 1:20 is still just
“getting lucky”.
This course and my book are designed to
INCREASE that female conversion ratio to waaaay
better than 1:20 - getting lucky.
I’m going to take you closer to 1:5 and then if
you work hard, follow everything I say and
practice without giving up - then you’ll get
even better than 1:5.
Now, I should tell you, many guys I teach
really do go from 1:20 kind of getting lucky,
all the way to 1:3.
Now unless you’re vastly talented and a TOTAL
player, you’re NEVER really going to get any
better than that. Because I’ll tell you what
happens.
When you’re able to close the deal on 1 in
every 3 girls you approach, it doesn’t take
long before you meet the girl of your dreams,
and she meets you. Then what happens is the guy
hangs up his gloves and settles down.
That’s the ultimate goal right? To find a woman
you TRULY love and that truly loves you back?
;-)
Well, if these guys who got so good they are
converting at 1 in every 3 girls don’t WANT to
settle down, or haven’t found the girl they’ve
been looking for their whole lives, then that’s
where the fun starts.
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Anyway, I’m going off on a tangent here. My
point was this, in reality, even the BEST
seducers get rejected. But it’s not usually a
harsh rejection. It’s usually on terms they are
comfortable with.
Rejection IS part of the dating and mating
game. So don’t worry if you crash and burn.
Pick yourself up and START again - having
learned from your previous encounter.
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The approach on a cold prospect (somebody you
don’t know who you’ve never seen or talked to
before) is made up of 6 BASIC stages.
Stage 1: The scope
Stage 2: The opener
Stage 3: Introducing a time constraint
Stage 4: Building interest and boosting
significance
Stage 5: Situation manipulation
Stage 6: Closing and leaving
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This flowchart looks simple, but let me say, it
works like magic. And it's scary how it's
almost like a factory process. You put A, B and
C in, and you get the desired results out -
ALMOST EVERY TIME. I'm going to go into each
stage in detail and give you instantly useable
advice, techniques and tell you EXACTLY what to
say, what not to say and when...
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